How To Raise and Adult is targeted directly at Gen Xers’ children: the reactionary parenting of a generation that ran wild and free in the 1970s and early 1980s and who now feel the need to do everything for their kids. Helicopter parents and checklist kids – author Julie Lythcott Haims helps direct parents away from the entitlement trap so they don’t raise children unable to cope with the real world.
The book breaks down as follows: Part 1: What we are doing now; Part 2: What we must stop Overparenting; Part 3: Another way; Part 4: Daring to parent differently; Conclusion. within those chapters, anecdotes, real world examples, step by step recommendations, and a very friendly tone guide parents to making better decisions about parenting.
The book is very easy to read and the author does a great job of integrating the science, experience, and personal skills to move parents to a better and healthier relationship with their children. Although all ages are represented, I feel that parents of younger kids will get more out of the book since they will have more time to correct (rather than fix) their own actions with regards to their children. As the mother of a 12 year old, there were several times I recognized I could have done things better when my daughter was younger.
This can be a wake up call for many parents but the author’s tone is never confrontational nor denigrating. The conversational tone makes the information easy to digest and more like getting great advice from a good and knowledgeable friend.
In all, an excellent book that more parents today really need to read. Reviewed from an advance reader copy provided by the publisher.