Communication Skills for Teens is a focused book discussing ways to deal with difficult situations as they relate to interpersonal skills. Written for teens, it doesn’t talk down to them nor go over their head; it is straightforward and uses examples and sample situation to help illustrate the points. The addition of the author’s daughter’s experiences and how she handled situations add an effective peer-to-peer perspective. I chose this for my 12 year old who is starting middle school so she can get a heads up on working with others through the difficult teen years.
The book breaks down as follows: Introduction, how to really listen, Letting others know you, Expressing what you feel and need, Recognizing hidden agendas, Understanding your beliefs and the beliefs of others, Assertive communication, Making new connections, Sexual communication, Family communication, Communication for academic and career success.
Each chapter has an introduction, little call-outs from daughter Kelly, information on how communication on the topic is problematic, tips and examples for dealing with situations, and then a ‘putting it all together’ summary. What was important is that the examples were very relatable – both my daughter and I were able to identify several instances where friends/family had fallen into communication traps recently and in the past. It made for great discussions on how her friends are changing now with puberty.
There is a bit of CBT (cognitive behavior therapy) in the form of keeping a notebook to write down instances where communication problems occurred. Although my daughter is 12 and therefore won’t have need of the sex or job communication skills, nearly every other part of the book was highly useful and very useful to situations in which she’d found herself – even at that young age. Moreover, she had no problem reading and understanding the topics contained within.
I found this to be a very useful book on a very focused topic that is so valuable. From making to keeping friends to interviewing for jobs, there are some really good points made using effective and relevant examples. For us, since my daughter is young, we were able to discuss the chapters together; even so, this is a book that is useful when read on its own as well. Reviewed from an advance reader copy provided by the publisher.